This week I am aware of the language people use in meetings. The little words, not the larger meaning, the political agenda or the summaries.
What are the little words?
The one's you'd delete if writing a meeting summary...these are the words I find interesting.
Yesterday at the Holocaust Museum I joined a discussion on French anti-Semitic legislation 1938-41.
At the end of the lecture, the floor was open to ask questions.
The room was 60% female and roughly 60% of the questions asked were from women. So this was "normal."
What struck me was every time a woman asked a question, myself included, they (we) somehow either apologized for asking a question, speaking too long, or discussing something not directly related.
The men never did this. And I thought about the fact that they rarely do. I am often impressed by how comfortable men can be going on and on in a discussion whereas women often cut themselves off and apologize for taking the stage.
Now Deborah Tannen has some great essays about this.